This is a checklist based on the best-selling book, LOVE-LIFE for Every Married Couple, by Ed Wheat and Gloria Okes Perkins.
48 WAYS TO BUILD LOVE IN YOUR MARRIAGE
● Say something good about your partner to another person ● Answer with positive, loving words, no matter what ● Do something kind for him/her ● Surprise him/her with a gift or thoughtful act ● Do the things you know are important to him/her ● Say “thank you” often and mean it ● Say, “I love you” ● Be courteous consistently ● Thank God for your mate and be specific ● Pray for his/her blessing ● Choose to forgive if hurt or offended ● Avoid proud behavior and never try to get even ● Study more ways to bless your partner ● Decide not to criticize your partner again and back up your decision by action until it becomes a habit ● Discern areas where your partner can use extra encouragement and think of ways to build him/her up ● Spend some time thinking about every positive quality you admire in your mate ● Edify your partner with words or praise and appreciation and be genuine, specific, generous ● Recognize his/her talents, abilities and accomplishments ● Communicate your respect for the work he/she does ● Keep your attention focused on your partner rather than expressing admiration for others of the opposite sex ● Seek your partner’s opinions and show that you value his/her judgements ● Demonstrate your confidence in him/her ● Respond to your mate with eye contact, smiles, body language (turn toward him/her) ● Treat your partner as a VIP in your home and in the presence of others ● Provide a peaceful, relaxed atmosphere of acceptance and unconditional love ● Enjoy some quality time together every day ● Do a special project together ● Develop some new interest in common ● Learn more about one another’s work and share the challenges and rewards ● enjoy a special date together once a week—plan for it ● Listen to him/her attentively without interrupting ● Be understanding ● Share your feelings ● Say, “I care” ● Make plans and set goals together ● Do housework or yard work together and make it fun ● Find ways to become more sensitive to one another ● Study communication skills together and practice them ● Treat your partner the way you would treat your best friend ● Hug often and for no particular reason ● Always greet or leave with a kiss ● Kiss when there’s no occasion ● Sit close to each other, whether in church or at home watching TV ● Go to bed at the same time and cuddle before you go to sleep ● Allow a few minutes in the morning to hold each other before you get up ● Practice expressing your love through the medium of tender touch ● Find what feels good to him/her ● Set some times at night when you have uninterrupted time to practice non-sexual body caressing and enjoy it ● Hold hands when you take a walk ● Some evenings take your shower or bath together and be lighthearted ● Develop positive feelings toward your own body (Psalm 139) ● Stay in physical contact while going to sleep ● Think of ways to say “I love you” by tender touch ●
● Say something good about your partner to another person ● Answer with positive, loving words, no matter what ● Do something kind for him/her ● Surprise him/her with a gift or thoughtful act ● Do the things you know are important to him/her ● Say “thank you” often and mean it ● Say, “I love you” ● Be courteous consistently ● Thank God for your mate and be specific ● Pray for his/her blessing ● Choose to forgive if hurt or offended ● Avoid proud behavior and never try to get even ● Study more ways to bless your partner ● Decide not to criticize your partner again and back up your decision by action until it becomes a habit ● Discern areas where your partner can use extra encouragement and think of ways to build him/her up ● Spend some time thinking about every positive quality you admire in your mate ● Edify your partner with words or praise and appreciation and be genuine, specific, generous ● Recognize his/her talents, abilities and accomplishments ● Communicate your respect for the work he/she does ● Keep your attention focused on your partner rather than expressing admiration for others of the opposite sex ● Seek your partner’s opinions and show that you value his/her judgements ● Demonstrate your confidence in him/her ● Respond to your mate with eye contact, smiles, body language (turn toward him/her) ● Treat your partner as a VIP in your home and in the presence of others ● Provide a peaceful, relaxed atmosphere of acceptance and unconditional love ● Enjoy some quality time together every day ● Do a special project together ● Develop some new interest in common ● Learn more about one another’s work and share the challenges and rewards ● enjoy a special date together once a week—plan for it ● Listen to him/her attentively without interrupting ● Be understanding ● Share your feelings ● Say, “I care” ● Make plans and set goals together ● Do housework or yard work together and make it fun ● Find ways to become more sensitive to one another ● Study communication skills together and practice them ● Treat your partner the way you would treat your best friend ● Hug often and for no particular reason ● Always greet or leave with a kiss ● Kiss when there’s no occasion ● Sit close to each other, whether in church or at home watching TV ● Go to bed at the same time and cuddle before you go to sleep ● Allow a few minutes in the morning to hold each other before you get up ● Practice expressing your love through the medium of tender touch ● Find what feels good to him/her ● Set some times at night when you have uninterrupted time to practice non-sexual body caressing and enjoy it ● Hold hands when you take a walk ● Some evenings take your shower or bath together and be lighthearted ● Develop positive feelings toward your own body (Psalm 139) ● Stay in physical contact while going to sleep ● Think of ways to say “I love you” by tender touch ●
2 comments:
amy...if you do all of this no one will want to be around you and scott. i am getting nausious.
jk, i am sure this is healthy for a marriage. good luck with all that. ;)
LOL given to me and thought i'd share. i left out the semi-graphic ones. thing is it was actually a DAILY checklist. LOL i'm shooting for one per day. :)
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